How romantic are you REALLY?! Take this quiz to find out.
Read the statements and pick an option: A, B or C. Then work out your score to see how romantic you are.
1. Valentine’s Day.
I like to do the works: cards, chocolates, a meal out…
I’d rather whisk him/her off for a surprise date when all the hype is over.
It’s just a commercial rip off. I make a point of ignoring it!
2. Which do you consider the most romantic place?
Where we first met.
Paris.
The sofa.
3. I like to text my partner during the day to say loving things.
Never. When I’m at work/away I’m engrossed in what I’m doing.
Sometimes, when I remember, or it’s a special occasion.
I regularly send messages, photos…
4. If I was organising dinner at home I would…
Get our favourite takeaway and let him/her choose a film to watch together.
Put candles on the table; get his/her favourite foods and a nice bottle of wine.
Do something a bit different …fish & chips and a bottle of something bubbly in bed!
5. Which do you think is the most romantic present?
Tickets to my favourite … (fill in the blank).
Anything as long as it’s beautifully wrapped.
Something expensive to show how much he/she’s worth to me!
6. Love letter.
I wouldn’t know where to start.
I love to write letters and cards to say how much he/she means to me.
I wrote a love letter in the early days of our relationship.
7. What do you consider the most romantic thing to talk about?
Shared memories.
Things that need doing in the house.
Hopes, dreams and the future.
8. If I was planning a get-away.
I’d meet with bags packed after work on Friday and go somewhere I know he/she has always wanted to visit.
I wouldn’t plan anything without consulting him/her.
I would take him/her on a weekend city break in the UK or Europe somewhere.
9. Which do you consider the most romantic gesture?
A dozen roses.
Running him/her a bubble bath and placing candles all around the room.
Holding hands.
10. What spells romance to your other half?
It’s about making an effort regularly to show I care; not taking him/her for granted.
I have no idea.
He/she loves grand gestures, presents and special times away.
Scoring
1. A: 1, B: 2, C: 0
2. A: 2, B: 1, C: 0
3. A: 0, B: 1, C: 2
4. A: 0, B: 1, C: 2
5. A: 0, B: 2, C: 1
6. A: 0, B: 2, C: 1
7. A: 1, B: 0, C: 2
8. A: 2, B: 0, C: 1
9. A: 0, B: 1, C: 2
10. A: 2, B: 0, C: 2
Answers for scores:
14 – 20
You understand how to be romantic and make special gestures, whether they are big ones, something meaningful to you as a couple or just good fun. Your partner is a lucky woman or man. If it’s early days in your relationship then enjoy every second of the romantic whirl. The medals go to the partners who keep up the romance after fifteen years of marriage!
7- 13
You make romantic gestures and your partner probably really appreciates these. This is great! Romance is about wooing your partner and actively showing you care. Being romantic doesn’t mean having to follow a formula, giving big presents and, or making extravagant gestures. It’s about putting your partner’s needs and likes above what you want and regularly doing something to show they are the most special person in the world. If you want to move up the romance scale then make it your mission to study your partner to find out what really speaks romance to him or her.
0 – 6
There may be a bit of the ‘bah-humbug’ about you concerning all things romance! Or perhaps you don’t think about your partner’s love needs. Everyone needs love and without it a relationship gradually withers away. Romance is a way of showing that you want to keep the spark in your relationship alive. Being romantic doesn’t have to be about expensive or grand gestures. Making phone calls to say ‘I love you’ shows that you are thinking about your other half and care. The key is to do something your partner would really like and make them feel valued.
NOTE: first published in Telegraph newspaper February 2019
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