Steve Becky Deare

Kickstarting healthy habits in your relationship

Stories · 3 min read

Have you ever thought about your relationship as if it were a muscle?

…that you can actually stretch it and grow it? 

…Stretch and grow it to be bigger and stronger than it was before? 

Married couple, Becky and Steve Deare wanted to do exactly this and build intentionally on their relationship, and so they started using Toucan Together, the free online relationship tool and app. 

What was it about Toucan that appealed to you? 

We knew that we wanted to spend time together intentionally learning how to grow as a couple. The Toucan app was especially appealing because we knew we could go through the modules at our own pace and from the comfort of our own home!”

What did you like about Toucan?

Through each module you get the opportunity to hear real-life stories from other couples and look through content designed to help you take practical steps in growing together through communication, conflict etc.

How did Toucan help you? 

One of the ways in which Toucan has helped us is the way it focuses not on the changes you would like to make in your partner but in the positive change you would like to see happen in yourself.”

We found the Couple Times especially helpful as they provided opportunities to come together and to discuss the content of each module as well as make practical plans together about how we can put the things we’ve learnt about ourselves into practice.

It was great getting to be so practical and because of those times we have begun planning for and scheduling regular date nights which we had not been doing in such an intentional way before.

Were there any specific tools or pieces of advice that were particularly useful to you?

Even though talking about why and how we react to conflict the way we do felt uncomfortable, we found this module particularly helpful! Spending time identifying our conflict animal’ and understanding more about the ways in which we tend to respond in arguments was so helpful!

The app also keeps it practical by giving tips in helping you think about which habits to drop and which habits to pick up. These have helped us to recognise how our own bad habits could be making conflict worse and although it feels hard to face up to our own faults has been so helpful in making positive change.”

What changes did you see in your relationship?

From what we’ve learnt and also the practical ideas we came up with together we have noticed that our conflicts don’t blow up as much as they once did and we are able to more easily resolve them.”

Whether you’ve thought of strengthening and growing your relationship or not don’t let the chance slip by to kick start some healthy habits with Toucan Together. Get started by taking the​‘Pulse’ of your relationship with our short research-based quiz and see the health of your relationship across seven key indicators.

Toucan Together can help you improve many aspects of your relationship: discover deeper ways to communicate; find positive approaches for resolving arguments; learn to speak each other’s Love Languages®️; build friendship, intimacy and a great sex-life. GET STARTED NOW | LOG IN


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