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New Year, New Couple Goals

Communication · 3 min read

Happy New Year Toucan Readers,

We hope your 2023 is off to a great start! The beginning of the year can often feel like pressing the reset button. The holidays are over, you crawl (or run) back to work, and you set goals for what you want to accomplish over the coming year. 

Most of the time people set goals like; work out more; travel to x amount of countries; read 52 books; learn a new language. And often setting goals for your relationship can go overlooked. 

Setting goals as a couple can be a great way to improve communication, increase intimacy, and achieve shared aspirations. So why not give it a shot this year?

Here are a few tips to help you get started:

1. Communicate openly and honestly with each other. 

Before setting any goals, it’s important to have a clear understanding of what each of you wants to achieve. Take the time to listen to each other’s ideas and express your own as clearly as possible. 

2. Be specific and realistic. 

Vague or unrealistic goals are unlikely to be achieved and can lead to disappointment. Instead, set specific, measurable, and achievable goals that both of you can work towards as a team. 

3. Prioritise your goals. 

With so many different things that you both want to achieve, it’s important to prioritise your goals and focus on the most important ones first. This will help you to avoid feeling overwhelmed and ensure that you make progress towards your most important aspirations.

4. Create a plan of action. 

Once you’ve set your goals, create a plan of action that outlines the specific steps you will take to achieve them. This will help you to stay on track and make progress towards your goals.

5. Hold each other accountable. 

It’s important to hold each other accountable for the goals you set. This means checking in with each other regularly, providing encouragement, and holding each other responsible for taking action towards achieving your goals.

6. And finally, celebrate your successes.

Setting and achieving goals can be hard work, so it’s important to take the time to celebrate those wins! Whether it’s a small accomplishment or a big milestone, take the time to appreciate your progress and the effort you’ve put into achieving your couple goals.

By following these tips, you and your partner can set and achieve your goals for 2023 whatever they may be. Happy goal setting!


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