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Understanding Us: Connection

Understanding Us · 2 min read

I can’t read minds, but sometimes I get lucky. A touch on the arm when my partner seems stressed, planning a fun weekend outing or asking a good question at the right time are all things that have made my partner feel seen, valued and known. But I can’t rely solely on my intuition forever, dropping random acts of kindness into our life hoping they will land. That’s where Understanding Us” comes in. Learning more about each other and ourselves helps build an informed intuition as we pursue more frequent, natural and meaningful times of connection. 

Take a moment to think of times you felt truly connected to your partner. Was it when they complimented or bragged on you in front of others? Or did you laugh together so hard you cried? Was it physical? Emotional? Relational? Stage of life and the demands of work and family can all impact how often, and in what ways, we connect. Here are some helpful categories of connection:

Connecting requires thought, knowledge and a little planning. Putting the work into learning one another takes time on the front end, but makes connecting physically, emotionally and relationally more effortless in the long run. Here are some questions you can ask your partner to help you discover connection points that are unique to you and your relationship. Take some time to think through how you would respond to these, too. 

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